February 25, 2013 § Leave a Comment
I love catching visions of kink in old movies. So I am so tickled to see a new coffee table book of images of just that! Damsels in distress, sci fi contraptions, Elvis getting flogged and captured vixens a plenty within these pages. Buy it from Amazon.com.
And here’s a little safe-for-work clip I recently stumble upon. He totally tricks her!
December 12, 2012 § 3 Comments
With the explosion of 50 Shade of Grey I find more and more people trying to expand their world and try new sexual adventures. (Love that!) This is what makes Playing Well with Others: You Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities so timely. It’s the perfect book for those looking to explore kinky events and parties.
Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams (co-authors) bring years of experience, good and bad, into each chapter. A non-judgmental guide, this book helps you explore your wants and needs, delivers valuable information on how to behave and feel welcome in fetish environments.Personally I can think of no better author than Mollena when it comes to advice on how to navigate kink.
If you are curious about events and parties, I’m gonna make this book required reading for you. You might also want to check out fetlife.com. It’s a free site that is an awesome place to explore ideas, meet people and find events near you. (I’m there if you search “duckydoolittle”.)
And You might also enjoy my posts on Stockroom’s blog:
- Rope Bondage Basics: How To Choose The Right Rope for Your Needs
- Ten Ways to Explore Sensation Play
- My First Ball Gag
- Nipples Rule: 8 Ways to Play
This is where I buy all my kinky gear. Use the checkout code DUCKY and get 10% off your purchase.
July 15, 2012 § 6 Comments
Annie Sprinkle: Post-Porn Modernist by Annie Sprinkle | Bitten: Dark Erotic Stories by Susie Bright | Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex by Katherine Gates | Dishwasher by Pete Jordan | Dr. Sketchy’s Official Rainy Day Colouring Book by Molly Crabapple | Emotional Construct of Morals by Jesse Prinz | Fetish Sex: A Complete Guide to Sexual Fetishes by Violet Blue | I have Chosen to Stay & Fightby Margaret Cho | Mind-Bowing Sex: A Woman’s Guide by Diana Cage | Pariah by Bob Fingerman | Snake Hips: Belly Dancing & How I Found True Love by Anne Thomas Soffee | The Book of the IS: Fail to Win by Chicken John Rinaldi | The Burlesque Handbook by Jo Weldon | The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness by Cory Silverberg
Who’d I miss? Pipe up.
You might also enjoy: Best Sex Writing 2012 | Disaster Was My God: the Outlaw Life of Arthur Rimbaud | Do You Swallow?
May 7, 2012 § 3 Comments
Sexology by Prof. Walling, (c) 1904
I just adore looking about at the sexual sciences of the past… This book is horrific and alarming with chapters like “The Womb And It’s Apendages” or “PART V: Masturbation, Female”.
They refer to masturbation as the act of IRRITATING THE VENERIAL REGION. They talk about how women become ugly because they have masturbated too much. I, myself, have proven this to not be true! I am well skilled when it comes to touching myself and I’m not too ugly.
Maybe I need to work even harder? Touch myself more. You know, in an effort to further prove my scientific findings.
April 8, 2012 § 30 Comments
I’m going to nutshell it for you: sluts, politics, pleasure, religion, cash, queerness, STDs, youth, age, crime, violence, body image, history, lust, leather, blow jobs and F bombs. What else do you need to know?
In her introduction, Susie Bright aligned the curation of this anthology with the childhood fun of building a time capsule in a Tupperware bowl, to be buried for posterity. I can see that. There are pieces that exemplify our times. But there are also essays I believe will stand the test of time.
My favorites being To All the Butches I Loved between 1995 and 2005: An Open Letter about Selling Sex, Selling Out, and Soldiering On by Amber Dawn. And not just because we toured together for a month while performing with the Sex Workers Art Show back in 2004. (OMG… best tour mate ever!) But because Amber writes from her heart and with a perspective that is raw yet inviting. She’s easy to love.
I also love the warmth of Lynn Harris’ Dating with an STD. Gone were the scare tactics and judgments. Left behind were her words of kindness and notes on the realities of lives touched by STDs.
I was soaking in nostalgia as I read Abby Tallmer’s Losing the Meatpacking District: A Queer History of Leather Culture, as the ol’ NYC meatpacking district was once one of my beloved, gritty stomping grounds. (Where else could one chat up a transgender hooker and a blood splattered meat packer while wearing greasepaint? And that was just a normal course of my work day!)
I also enjoyed Rachel Kramer Bussel’s Penis Gagging, BDSM, and Rape Fantasy: The Truth about Kinky Sexting where she addresses the hotness of sexting and how, when taken out of context, lustful words can be twisted in the worst ways.
Leave a comment to this post (before 11:29pm (eastern time) on 4/8) and you are entered to win a copy of Best Sex Writing 2012! (Contest is over. CONGRATULATIONS to Heather! Much thanks to everyone who entered… there will be more contests. I promise. xo)
You might also enjoy: Books My Friends Have Written | Phone Sex Operators | Disaster Was My God: The Outlaw Life of Arthur Rimbaud
January 26, 2012 § 7 Comments
Whether you like it or not, you are a sexual role model for the young people in your life. Their eager minds seek to understand the world around them. When the issues are not articulated for them, they learn through the subtleties, like body language and watching the interactions of those around them. And even worse, they learn from the Internet, television and through conversations with their friends. If you don’t step up and let them know they are safe to ask you anything – you are leaving them in the hands of strangers and a life of learning by way of their own mistakes.
Open the door and let them know you will not be angry or embarrass them for asking questions. At what age you open this door really depends upon your child. Some kids are very inquisitive at an early age while others just need to know they can ask if the need arises. Remind them every once in a while that they can ask you anything. Sometimes they may be on the edge of a precarious situation or thinking about something they heard and your gentle nudge may remind them that they are not alone.
When are kids having sex? It depends upon the kids. Some kids start very early. Some wait until marriage. Lots of kids have explicit conversations about sex. Studies show that nearly half of all high school aged kids are engaging in sexual activity. Of those who are sexually active, 2/3 have had more than one partner. Good, honest, sweet, smart, wonderful kids will be genuinely interested in exploring sex. Be ready for it.
Another reason you should want to be their main resource is that the world has a funny way of compartmentalize sex. We do this through subtle attitudes (like “boys will be boys” and the shaming of girl who express interest in sex) and by way of the media (sex sells). And those are just a couple of examples. These ideas do not always coincide with what young people are taught at home and/or their place of worship. It can become very difficult for a young person to understand how sex can affect self-esteem, relationships, and health. If they are taught that only dirty or nasty people have sex, then how do they justify that the same acts can bond a relationship or be the source of a new life? These are complex issues that cannot be over looked.
Part of the problem is that many young people believe the solid definition of sex is intercourse. People (young and old) do not recognize that sex is a way of life, not a particular act. Sex can be the energy exchanged while looking at each other, eating a meal together (with out the TV on) or lying on the lawn and looking at the stars with your lover. But sex does incorporate many acts, like heavy petting, oral sex, intercourse and anal sex. Many young people will have oral sex with multiple partners but still identify as a virgin. (And not understanding that oral sex can leave them vulnerable to STDs.) It’s important for you to help them develop a clear understanding of what sex is and what kinds of behaviors may require safer sex materials and birth control.
Some people are dismayed that schools are or are not teaching sexual health. Some people are upset over the content of what the schools may be teaching. Personally I feel like it would be great f the school could find a curriculum that suited everyone, but realistically I don’t think that is possible. Every family has their own culture, religion, ethics and moral standards. Ultimately it’s always up to you to teach the children in your family.
I highly recommend having an age appropriate sexuality book on your books shelves at home or simply give the books to your kids.
Deal with It! A Whole New Approach to Your Body, Brain and Life as a gURL is awesome. It’s a cute, hip, age appropriate book that is inclusive of emotions, relationships, bliss, excitement, fears, anxiety, spirituality, anatomy and lots of other nitty gritty facts and details young people need to know but would never think to ask. Good stuff.
December 12, 2011 § 3 Comments
A stunning set of photos and mini-interviews with phone sex operators reveals not just the identity of operators who answer the phone when you call a 1-900 number, but their desires, fears, motivations, and most memorable calls.
August 27, 2011 § 2 Comments
I picked this one up at the library, on a whim. I’m a non-fiction girl, through and through, so checking out a novel “based” on a person’s life is a rare thing for me. Luckily Bruce Duffy’s writing is carrying me through the story rather well. Disaster Was My God is the story of Arthur Rimbaud, an astounding, young French poet. Or at least that’s a piece of who he was. He was a country boy who traveled to Paris, became a literary star, took up with a married man – who later shot him when he broke the man’s heart. He quit writing and went on to be a bad ass arms dealer in Africa – and all that by the age of 20. He died at 37. Somewhere in there he lost a leg and there are more adventures I have yet to uncover as I’m not even done reading it! But I can already stand by it as a great book. And a perfect book to read as I wait for the hurricane to drop on little old New York City. (Honestly, I’m not terribly worried.)
May 17, 2011 § 1 Comment
Being an artist doesn’t take much, just everything you got. Which means, of course, that as the process is giving your life, it is also bringing you closer to death. But it’s no big deal. – Hubert Selby, Jr.
I have been consuming documentaries about writers…
Born Into This is a collection of interviews about and mixed with seven years worth of footage of Charles Bukowski. Prolific he may have been, but oh-so-drunk and angry. Towards the end of the film we get to watch him physically and verbally abuse his beloved. What an ass. So I checked some of his books out of the library because, even if the bastard is dead, I will not give him my money. I win! (Known for writing Love is a Dog From Hell.)
Next I watched William S. Burroughs: A Man Within. I don’t know… is it bad that I want to like a person in order to really love their work? I appreciate pieces of his work… queer, out, but again angry as all fuck. I could never get over the fact that he clumsily shot his own wife in the head and then fled the country to avoid the consequences. And the whole dead beat dad behavior that these “tortured” writers display. WTF? We are all tortured in some way, feed your kids. (Best known for writing Naked Lunch.)
Which brings me to Hubert Selby, Jr: I/ll Be Better Tomorrow. After the first two films, I did not expect to enjoy this one. But I did. Greatly. A warm man, yet raw and brutally self-destructive. It opens with him reading in front of an audience, “Where were you dad? Sliding off a bar stool and pissing in your pants?” His nickname was Cubby because he was the cub, carrying his father’s name. And he continued to use the name, feeling like the kids on the streets of Brooklyn would beat him up for being named “Hubert.” He ran away at 16 and joined the merchant marines. Sailed the world. Fucked things. Contracted TB and was never the same. In their efforts to save his life they cut out his ribs and chunks of his lungs. He asked to keep the removed ribs so he could make letter openers for his friends. (Geezz…. how I miss real mail. So much better than email.) Despite his bestselling books, he live most of his life in poverty due to his drug addiction. In the end of the film they say, “His life was a living example for anyone who thought they were gonna get rich writing. Though he did live a rich life.” Ain’t that the truth. (Best known for writing Last Exit to Brooklyn.)