Lipstick Stains on Your Pillow

A post for former foster kids:

THANK YOU for taking a few minutes to answer my questions. Together we have the chance to have an impact on the lives of current and upcoming foster kids. Hopefully our experiences can work to give them a better experience in the system.

Answer with as much or as little information as you are comfortable. You can choose NOT to answer any of the questions. I may wish to use your first name and age in the article. If you would like to be anonymous, please just give me a fake first name.

I will need to get your answers before the end of tomorrow. (Sunday 4/28) Send your responses via email to: ducky@duckydoolittle.com

WHO IS A FORMER FOSTER KID? A person who experienced the system of “foster care.” Maybe you lived with relatives, non-relative families, in a pre-adoptive home, in a group home or transitional living facility.

WHO AM I? I am a former foster kid. I entered foster care at the age of 12. Orphaned at 13, I became a ward of the state. I aged-out of foster care. I am now an author, a pleasure-based sex educator and a Sexual Assault & Violence Intervention Counselor.

WHO ARE WE REACHING WITH THIS ARTICLE? This will be a feature newsletter article for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). The article will reach sexuality educators, sex counselors and sex therapists, physicians, nurses, social workers, psychologists, allied health professionals, clergy members, lawyers, sociologists, marriage and family counselors and therapists, family planning specialists and researchers, as well as students in relevant professional disciplines. These people have the power to help foster kids.

QUESTIONS

1. What ages were you in foster care? And approximately how many different home placements did you experience?

2. What is your first name and current age?

3. In what state did you live while in care?

4. While in foster care did you receive any formal sex educations? If so, from who or where?

5. Did anyone explain your rights to medical care and terms of confidentiality to you while in foster care?

6. Did you receive adequate medical care?

7. Who, if anyone, did you turn to if you had a question or concern about your health or sexuality?

8. Did religion or culture benefit or hinder your ability to get good information about sex? This could be the religion or culture of your family, of your foster families or of the organization that provided your services.

9. Did your foster parents speak with you about sex? If so, did this help you? If not, do you wish they would have?

10. Did your social workers or any other case workers speak with you about sex? If so, did this help you? If not, do you wish they would have?

11. In what other ways did you get information about sexuality, be it relationships, STI and pregnancy prevention, or pleasure?

12. How do you think you could have been better served by the system, foster parents, or case workers?

13. Did you receive any life skill assistance one you aged-out of foster care? If so, please tell me a little about those services.

14. Do you have any suggestions of better ways they system might serve foster kids around sex education?

15. As a teenager, what was the best information about sex anyone ever gave you?

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