Playing Well with Others
December 12, 2012 § Leave a Comment
With the explosion of 50 Shade of Grey I find more and more people trying to expand their world and try new sexual adventures. (Love that!) This is what makes Playing Well with Others: You Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities so timely. It’s the perfect book for those looking to explore kinky events and parties.
Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams (co-authors) bring years of experience, good and bad, into each chapter. A non-judgmental guide, this book helps you explore your wants and needs, delivers valuable information on how to behave and feel welcome in fetish environments.Personally I can think of no better author than Mollena when it comes to advice on how to navigate kink.
If you are curious about events and parties, I’m gonna make this book required reading for you. You might also want to check out fetlife.com. It’s a free site that is an awesome place to explore ideas, meet people and find events near you. (I’m there if you search “duckydoolittle”.)
And You might also enjoy my posts on Stockroom’s blog:
- Rope Bondage Basics: How To Choose The Right Rope for Your Needs
- Ten Ways to Explore Sensation Play
- My First Ball Gag
- Nipples Rule: 8 Ways to Play
This is where I buy all my kinky gear. Use the checkout code DUCKY and get 10% off your purchase.
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Pussy Cat! (nsfw)
August 1, 2012 § 1 Comment
First I give you panda heads, then rabbit tails, and now I grace you with this:
You’re welcome.
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Joy = A Ball Gag & Nipple Clamps (nsfw)
July 6, 2012 § 2 Comments
I am loving this memento of a fetish shoot created Clayton Cubitt. He’s a remarkable photographer. His portraits are stunning.
As a person who has sat for a lot of photographers what I see is that people trust that he will show their beauty. He’s magic.
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Ok… nerds rule. Some more.
April 4, 2012 § Leave a Comment
Check out this awesome gallery of sexy, odd nerds!
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How To Lace Yourself Into a Corset
February 6, 2012 § 3 Comments
Perhaps these photos inspired one of my readers to ask me for a tutorial on how to lace yourself into a corset. Happily, youtube is full of awesome videos on just that.
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Weird High Heels
January 20, 2012 § 3 Comments
I love strange and extreme heels. They are just one of the many ways a woman can vary her presentation. They can make you weak, make you powerful or sometimes simply be entertaining. But this gallery and this gallery of weird high heels are beyond what even I can wear!
I think my favorite are the heels with embedded beer bottle opener. Appeals to both the beer and heel lover in me! Low brow high heels, for sure.
Speaking of which, my next shoe shopping trip is happening here. Cute, classic stripper shoes that go and go.
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Etsy Crush: Audra Jean
January 17, 2012 § Leave a Comment
Etsy is the best place to get handmade, unique leather pieces. I love all of the bust-accentuating belts made by Audra Jean. They can be as chic, as casual or as fetishistic as you so desire. These black leather spats are fucking amazing too.
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Legs, Porn & Panties
January 9, 2012 § 8 Comments
I have been cleaning out my archive of letters as I continue to pull together Elusive. Last night I came across a letter from Dian Hanson, inviting me in to her office, dated August of 1995.
Dian was the editor of Leg Show Magazine at the time. As a young, alternative model my dream was to be in Leg Show. The images were always sexy as hell, you could find a variety of types of women in the pages and the photos were not as lewd as many of the other publications out there. My preference was to do flirtatious photos over nudity. Leg Show was just my thing.
The beauty and success of the magazine could be contributed to the lush, erotic mind of Dian Hanson. (She’s now an editor for Taschen.) And meeting her was a real treat for me. Her office alone was like a dirty sideshow museum. Art crawled up the walls and her desk was covered in potential nudie girl spreads for upcoming issues. She’s long, tall and beautiful. I was in heaven!
She was known for her aloofness. And I had seen a guy chase after her in the rudest way at a party once, trying to introduce his model girlfriend to her. It was easy to chalk her attitude up to professionalism.
I remember just a few other details from that meeting. She asked to see the tops and bottoms of my feet. She had me try on a pair of size 4 shoes to see just how little my feet were. And then we talked about settings and how we would dress the shoot.
She explained to me that she liked to use contrasting colors as men were attracted to them. She picked up an image on her desk of a woman posing in front of a blue seamless backdrop, near a fire hydrant, wearing yellow heels, red stockings, yellow panties, a red bra and a yellow rain slicker.
The color combinations were damn near painful to my eyes. Red and yellow? I might mix black stockings with grey panties. Or a light pink bra with white panties… but red and yellow? We both sat there smirking over it. She insisted it was true. This was a color combination that would light men up.
And who was I to argue with Dian Hanson? New York Magazine did a piece on her where she states, ”I’ve made this magazine successful by listening to guys,” Hanson says. “I probe them for the subtleties of their lust.” No one knew legs, panties and men better than Dian.
Yet all these years later I still sit with that image of red and yellow underthings and wonder, really guys? Really?
And so I ask you if you… do you find extremely contrasting colors of lingerie to be sexy? It’s just pure curiosity that has me asking.
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How To Walk in Ballet Boots
January 5, 2012 § 8 Comments
I first fell for ballet boots when I saw them in John Willie’s Bizarre. (Which I proudly own.) Recently I acquired a pair of my own. I have owned a lot of outlandishly beautiful heels in my day, but ballet boots are in a class all their own. When I have confessed to a few people that I am learning how to walk in them, they scoff, “oh those aren’t made for walking in!”
But I assure you, it is possible. Some tricks I have learned include:
- cutting 5mm off the heels
- keep your knees completely straight
- pad the toes
And this blog outlines other tips and tricks to steady yourself. You can shop for ballet boots and shoes here.
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